As the old saying goes you can choose your friends but not your family. This week I've experienced adult children having challenges with their unwilling, stubborn parents and children attempting to take over the lives of their parents with little regard for the wishes of the parent. What is it about wanting or needing to control the life of another that results in such emotional stress when care is needed or caregiving is involved?

It's simple, we believe we know better than someone else what they need or want or we're tired, exhausted and just want a solution -- any solution. It's not necessarly true that we know better, however this belief is rampant in caregiving when adult children want the easy way out which is usually putting mom or dad in a retirement community. Not necessarily true when stubborn parents lack the cognitive ability (due to a diagnosis of dementia or Alzheimer's) to comprehend that not eating, not taking medications and not bathing is NOT good.

If you're a person needing care or a caregiver seek a support group, learn about a diagnosis and try NOT to believe you know more than the person involved. Older adults deserve dignity and peace of mind. They've earned it.
There's a time in all of our lives when life seems overwhelming. Whether your career is too demanding, you're a retired adult needing to return to work or a frustrated or exhausted caregiver for a family member or parent. Why is it we become overwhelmed or stuck?
The answer is easy - the remedy is challenging. We become overwhelmed and stuck because we receive exactly out of life what we expect, believe or fear. The idea of change may seem simple yet those who say they like change usually mean superficial change like moving the furniture around in your home. To move out from being stuck or overwhelm we need personal tranformational change -- much more difficult.
If you continue to see your situation as it is -- it will not change. Transform your mind and your thoughts to the experience you want and take steps to work toward this every day. With focus and attention on what you do want, uou'll see yourself as less overwhelmed, more in control and not stuck in a situation that doesn't seem to change.
Part of my daily routine is to walk and listen to podcast in an attempt to catch up on news or topics of interest. One podcast I have been following for 4 years is The Bigg Success Show, with George and Mary Lynn. They explore topics about personal and business actions that contribute success in business and life. Today’s episode was a very touching subject and one that I feel inclined to share with this group.

Bonnie Ware for many years worked in palliative care. Her patients were those who had gone home to die. She was with her patients for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives. During that time, some incredibly special times were shared and she is in the process of publishing her experiences in a book. “People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learned never to underestimate someone's capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.”

When Bonnie would ask her dying patients about regrets, 5 recurring themes surfaced:
1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
2. I wish I didn't work so hard.
3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
The details behind each of these themes can be read by going to Bonnie’s blog REGRETS OF THE DYING.

I am sharing this with our group because life’s lessons need to be heard and acted upon by everyone who is wondering "what my next step in life is"? It is your life and YOU need to decide how it will be lived. The best way is to learn from others and don’t repeat the same mistakes.
Richard Wing
Nostalgic for the past?
Posted October 29, 2011 by Richard Wing in Humor, Entertainment
How many of these events and shows do you remember? My memory of most are pretty good, but as a child, we did not get TV until 1956 so anything earlier than that I saw as a rerun.

CLICK ON A DATE AND SIT BACK AND ENJOY

Pick out one of your favorites from below and give it a try...

1. JACKIE GLEASON ON THE ROCKY MARCIANO SHOW THE MAIN EVENT (1960)
2. JAMES DEAN: HIS FINAL TV APPEARANCE (1954)
3. ELVIS SINGS BLUE SUEDE SHOES (1956)
4. A TRIBUTE TO ELVIS PRESLEY, THE KING OF ROCK & ROLL (1959-62)
5. THE EDSEL INTRODUCED ON NBC (1957)
6. BOBBY DARIN'S "MACK THE KNIFE" (1959)
7. WESTINGHOUSE DEBUTS HI-TECH "ADVANCED TV" (1951)
8. WILLIAM BENDIX AS LOVABLE CHESTER A. RILEY (1956)
9. ICONS I: WHAT MADE 50'S TV GOLDEN (COMPILATION, (1952-60)
10. THE PATTI PAGE SHOW (1958)
11. BLOOPERS FROM THE HONEYMOONERS (1957-58)
12. THE CENSORED JERRY LEE LEWIS HERE UNCENSORED! (1957-59)
13. A TRUE 50's DOO WOP TV CLASSIC (1958)
14. FAMILY AFFAIR (1966)
15. ALAN FREED'S BIG BEAT DANCE PARTY DANCERS (1959)
16. THE STEVE ALLEN SHOW (1957)
17. The Inventor Of TV Sketch Comedy ERNIE KOVACS (1954)
18. THE RED SKELTON SHOW (1959)
19. ICONS: THE DELINQUENCY RAMPAGE! (COMPILATION, 1957-60)
20. FATHER KNOWS BEST (1953)
21. PETTICOAT JUNCTION (1962)
22. OLYMPIC GOLD MEDALIST BOB MATTHIAS (1956)
23. DANCES OF THE 1950's: THE HAND JIVE (1957)
24. GROUCHO MARX YOU BET YOUR LIFE (1959)
25. DRAGNET (1959)
26. THE IMMORTAL MUSICAL COMEDY OF VICTOR BORGE 1951
27. EDDIE FISHER SINGS A MEDLEY OF HIS BIGGEST HITS 1953
28. ABBOTT & COSTELLO: WHO'S ON FIRST? 1951
29. MORE DANCES OF THE 1950's THE JITTERBUG 1958
30. THE HONEYMOONERS ... IN COLOR! 1969
31. THE ORIGINAL FLASH GORDON SERIAL theatres-1939; TV-1960's
32. THE LONE RANGER 1955
33. THE ENDEARING GRIMACES OF EDDIE CANTOR 1952
34. BOBBY DARIN NERVOUSLY HOSTS A BEAUTY CONTEST 1957
35. MORE DANCES OF THE 1950's: THE LINDY HOP 1959
36. SHAKE, BABY, SHAKE! IT'S THE KILLER AGAIN! 1958
37. THE DANNY THOMAS SHOW 1958
38. SID CAESAR: YOUR SHOW OF SHOWS 1957
39. HERE COMES TOBOR! 1954
40. THE ADVENTURES OF SUPERMAN 1954
41. THE ADVENTURES OF FLIPPER 1964
42. SPIKE JONES 1951
43. CAPTAIN VIDEO & HIS VIDEO RANGERS 1950
44. THE LIBERACE SHOW 1952
45. MEDIC 1954
46. THE BIG VALLEY 1965
47. THE ROOTS OF TV BASEBALL 1950-57
48. Mc HALE'S NAVY 1962
49. HOPALONG CASSIDY 1952
50. DARK SHADOWS 1966
51. FADS & FANCIES OF THE 50s & 60s
52. I LOVE LUCY 1952
53. THE DICK VAN DYKE SHOW 1962
54. THE BEATLES FIRST TELEVISION APPEARANCE 1963
55. BAT MASTERSON 1958http://xoteria.com/CH55.html
56. MARTY ROBBINS ON THE JOHNNY CASH SHOW 1964
57. FRANK SINATRA SPEAKS CANDIDLY 1954
58. PASSWORD 1962
59. STAR TREK TV ON DEMAND 1966-present
60. MORE DANCES OF THE 50's: THE SWINGBACK 1958
61. THE LIVE TV FRIDGE COMMERCIAL CATASTROPHE 1954
62. THE ARTHUR GODFREY SHOW 1957
63. BUILDING THE 1958 DODGE 1957
64. FIGHT CLASSIC: ROCKY MARCIANO vs. JERSEY JOE WALCOTT 1952
65. AND MORE GREAT ICONS OF THE 50's VOL III 1952-59
66. ALFRED HITCHCOCK PRESENTS 1959
67. SATURDAY NIGHTLIVE~~ BEFORE SNL 1954-58
68. FELIX THE CAT 1959
69. THE DONNA REED SHOW 1958
70. THE GOLDBERGS 1952
71. LUCILLE BALL & CAROL BURNETT 1965
72. THE LITTLE RASCALS 1955
73. HIGHWAY PATROL 1956
74. LOST IN SPACE 1966
75. BEULAH 1951
76. BEWITCHED 1966
77. I DREAM OF JEANIE 1966
78. SEA HUNT 1957
79. DYNAMITE JOE RINDONE 1954
80. THE MILTON BERLE SHOW 1957
This post is a reprint with permission by the author, Anastasiya. Follow her on Balanced Body, Balanced Lifestyle Twitter or StumbleUpon and keep your life balanced!

What does an active lifestyle mean? For a long time I thought that being active means going to the gym at least 5 times a week, training for marathons or other races or spending a ton of time exercising every week. Do you have a similar idea of an active lifestyle?

I’ve heard many people say that they cannot exercise because they do not have time for it or they are just not “that type of person.” I thought that I was not an athletic person for many years because most of my interests revolved around sedentary activities (working with the computers, studying, writing, creating artwork.) But thankfully I have realized that I was wrong.

All people are created with the intention to move and be active. I do not want to lecture too much telling you how the modern lifestyle (no sunshine, low-activity, crappy food) makes us sick and robs us of the opportunity to live a healthy life (I can talk for hours about it but it is not the point.) If you think that you are not made to be a buff and fit guy or gal with a six pack, then probably you are not. The truth is that you do not have to look like a fitness model to be active and healthy. Actually it is your choice of how you want to train and how you want to look.
Just take a look at these myths. Do you believe in any of them?

Myth #1. I am not made to be active.


If I got a penny every time I heard somebody saying that they were not made to be active I would be … maybe not a millionaire … but a half-millionaire definitely. We have legs, we have arms, we can bend and move – all of this means that our bodies were created to run, walk and be active.

The change from a sedentary to an active lifestyle is not quick and easy but once you cross the line you will not be able to turn back. Your body gets addicted to being active and in good shape.
Every person can find a form of activity that will be interesting and exciting for them. Sometimes it takes time to find that activity but I believe that there is something for everybody.
Bloggers, writers, programmers, designers and more can benefit from adding exercise into their lifestyle. It will fight stress, prevent burnout, provide a creative outlet, help you refocus and find solutions to the problems you’ve been working on.

Myth #2. I need a ton of time to keep myself in good shape.


If you want to look like a fitness model all year round then yes, you do need to live in the gym. However, most of us, regular people, do not need to try the “Beg for Mercy” workouts or spend 2 hours 5 days a week at the gym.

Depending on your fitness goals you will have to adjust the length and type of your workouts but you can stay active doing regular activities during the day. Walking, playing with kids, gardening, cleaning the house, even walking around the mall – all of these are types of exercise. Just add a few balanced workouts that include cardio, strength training and stretching, combine this routine with a healthy diet and you can expect to be in good shape all year round.
An active lifestyle is a part of balanced living. You do not have to sacrifice your daily joys on being healthy. You can have it all.

Myth #3. 10 minute workouts do not count.


You might think that getting off your chair and walking for 10 minutes won’t do you any good but you are wrong. According to modern health guidelines all of us have to get at least 30 minutes of moderate activity throughout the day, this activity can be divided into short periods of 10 minutes. Maybe walking or stretching for 10 minutes won’t turn you into a fitness model but it will improve circulation in your body and clear out our head.

If you can fit in intense 10-minute workouts then your results will be more noticeable. According to the Journal of Physiology short bursts of very intense workouts — equivalent to only a few minutes per day — can produce the same results as traditional endurance training. Think about rope jumping for a few minutes, “all out” running or cycling.
If you make a rule to get up every hour while you are at work and move for 10 minutes then by the end of the day you will have an 80-minute workout already behind you (this is at least 300 extra calories that you have burned during the day!)

Short bouts of exercise bring the same benefits as a single workout that is why they are a perfect fit for any busy person.

Myth #4. I can’t exercise on my own or at home.


Are you one of those people who use a treadmill as a fancy clothes hanger or maybe you have an entire collection of fitness DVDs in your attic?

I agree, starting to exercise on your own is difficult and a lot of times just “does not feel right ”. You do not know what to do and how to do it. You feel silly jumping around the living room when there are so many more important things to do. You do not feel comfortable with your family watching how you exercise. You just do not have the motivation to take your dumbbells, put on your running shoes (link to barefoot running) or start that Yoga video.

Learning to exercise at home is like learning to ride a bicycle. At first you feel out of balance and you do not know whether you can do it or not. But once you’ll learn it you will never forget how to do it.
It is important to have a goal and a support group when you first start to exercise on your own that is why From a Sedentary to Active Lifestyle in 1 Month can be the right program for you. I have learned to do it and you can too.

Myth #5. I do not like to exercise.


You just have not tried everything yet. While pounding the pavement or lifting weights might not be your thing you still have hundreds of other activities.

You can learn to love exercise as well as you can develop tastes for healthy food. Your body was made for being fit, attractive and healthy. You just have to go one step at a time instead of jumping head forward into a new exercise regime (read: going from couch potato to P90X in 1 day.) As soon as you start noticing results both physically and mentally you will develop a complete new attitude towards an active lifestyle.


Keep it balanced!
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